Living the New Life

  • everybody stresses out. here’s why I say bring it on.

    Does your “To Do” list look anything like mine? Sandwiched between get groceries and take kids to practice is one little word that’s got me stress-eating mint chocolate chip ice cream and avoiding my desk at all costs: Taxes. I even use a CPA now so it’s not as if I have to go it alone. […]

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  • 3 ways to transform “thoughts and prayers” into substance

    Since last week’s shooting, I’ve vacillated between grief and anger like pretty much everybody I know. I’ve fist-pumped at impactful posts only to despair at online arguments that are more about blame-shifting than truth-seeking. One trending idea that’s caught my attention is that politicians will once again offer only “thoughts and prayers” but no real […]

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  • dear younger me, stop stressing out your marriage

    Dear Younger Me, You pulled off that dream wedding! Just wanted you to know the next 22 years will be an adventure like nothing you can imagine from those church steps. Yes, you’re going to learn some things the hard way, but oh, they are going to make the later years of marriage so much […]

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  • That Time I Had a Baby Five Days Before Christmas

    Easter weekend 2001, we discovered to our utter amazement that we were expecting a baby. From a due date calculator, we also discovered our child would be born right around Christmas. Though our son’s birth was nine months away, a Christmas dream was born in that instant. In it I would be sitting beside the […]

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  • tidings of comfort and joy

    We knew, and yet we didn’t know. We’ve been preparing ourselves since early fall for the passing of my husband’s mom. We knew she was likely in her final months, and yet, when the end came on Monday night, we still felt the shock of disbelief. It’s still too tender a thing to write about […]

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  • the places that made me

    This week I’m thanking God for the places that made me. I am a Southern girl through and through, but I admit that the Deep South is a complicated place to be from. For all our churches, hospitality, and genteel manners, we can’t deny a legacy of racism, classicism, illiteracy, and poverty. Turns out, though, […]

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  • The People Who Made Us: An All-Saints Meditation

    Happy All Saints Day! Though my church tradition doesn’t specifically celebrate the day, I tend to pause on Nov 1st to think about the people who came before me. Looking back can help us move forward, especially when we celebrate the examples of those who rose above their circumstances and failures to press on in […]

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  • 3 Truths Teens Need to Hear 

    If you were asked to fill in the blank, “Sometimes, I feel like I’m not ___________ enough,” what would you say? What would your 15-year-old say? I asked 50 or so high school women just that. Here’s some of what they told me: Sometimes, I feel like I’m not Pretty Smart Strong Popular Involved Interesting […]

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  • In Good Times or Bad, Who’s Your Dream Team?  

    Hurricanes, floods, earthquakes, and now, mass violence. Shocked and reeling, we cry and pray, but truthfully, we also doubt and rage. Once again, we’re united with all others in the suffering that goes on throughout the world and has been since the first murder of an innocent person (Abel) by his enraged brother (Cain). A […]

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  • what do i do when friendships end? friendships and houseplants, part 2

    We’re talking about friendships with my buddy Keri Lee from Free to Fly Ministries again this week. Check out last week’s post where she laments her “black thumbs” when it comes to caring for houseplants but offers Biblical wisdom on caring for our friendships. Such good reminders for me! This week, though, I asked her, […]

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