This month has been all about gaining freedom and perspective as parents. From the tall tale that a “good” mom shouldn’t need breaks from her kids, to the lie that she should be able to do it all (and all at the same time), to the whopper that she should love each child in exactly the same way, we’ve been demolishing the myths of motherhood. This week brings us a final Myth-Busting Mama who battled back against the notion that she should take all her cues from her parental peers on everything from birthday-party bounce-houses to which college is best for her child.
Molly Prim is a fun, down-to-earth friend whom I’ve come to respect even more as she serves as a lay elder guiding our church during these upside-down times. Her practical advice and creative approaches find their backing in scripture, so I knew she’d have great things to share. If you’ve ever felt the pressure to keep pace with everyone else’s parenting “highlight reel,” you’ll love what Molly has to say! Read More
Hey there, Myth-Busting Mamas! We’re cruising into week three of our series with encouragement today from my friend MoNicka “Mo” Montañez!
I got to know Mo while serving together at Faithbridge Student Ministry (FSM). Her warm smile and kind words are a blessing to kids and adults alike. She’s befriended many moms in our church and neighborhood—and more than a few of us have binge-watched her Instagram cooking tutorials for meal ideas during the pandemic shutdown. Mo also loves developing students, especially as a mentor to young women in her high school Bible study group.
But Mo let me in on a secret:
“People would tell me, ‘I bet you never yell at your kids! You are such a good mom,’ because they would see that I worked with children and students. Then, at home, I couldn’t understand why I bumped heads and argued so much, especially with my younger son. I thought I was parenting the ‘right way,’ but I felt like such a bad mom because what worked with one of my sons didn’t work with the other.”
However, Mo eventually uncovered a myth she’d bought into, and she got to work replacing it with truth. You’ll be encouraged by what she has to say, plus she shares a mouth-watering dessert recipe to tempt your family to log off those Zoom calls and come to the table. Read More
This month we’re debunking those parenting myths that cause tension, guilt, and frustration! If you’ve ever struggled with the many roles and responsibilities of “mom life”—and drifted into despair because of it—today’s Myth-Busting Mama has a word for you!
My friend Suzanne Werlein is part of the heart and soul of Faithbridge Church, a vibrant community in northwest Houston planted by her husband Ken twenty years ago. She shares how her motherhood journey collided with her ministry journey and left her crying out to God for answers. The myth she’s had to battle? “A good mom can do it all, all at the same time.” Read More
Nothing like eight weeks of family togetherness to make you question yourself as a mom, huh? I’m thankful for so much, but I’d be lying if I said this COVID-19 season hasn’t tested me and prompted soul searching.
Lurking beneath my feelings of tension, guilt, and frustration? Some faulty assumptions and beliefs that undermine God’s truth.
Maybe you’ve met some of them – those Motherhood Myths that creep in to whisper there’s such a thing as a “perfect” parent if we just try hard enough or that our value comes from whether the kids are happy with us or not.
I’ve realized the best Mother’s Day gift I can give myself is to bust those myths wide open by applying grace and godly wisdom to my parenting. I’ve also reached out to other myth-busting mamas, like my friend Jennifer Perez, to discuss the motherhood myths we’re debunking. Let’s get busting! Read More
Show of hands: who’s really lost it yet with their fellow quarantinees? I’ve had some moments before this, but yesterday, wham, everything bubbled up. I was going toe-to-toe over something completely stupid with one kid, everything in me wanting to win the argument, while also yelling across the house at the other to please-just-turn-down-the-TV. Meanwhile, hubby decide to intervene which led to a very nice discussion called “Who’s side are you on anyway?”
Once it was all over, I felt like a doofus for awhile. I made my apologies. I got some extra rest last night. I’ll take a little me-time today even if I have to lock myself in the bathroom and concoct a homemade facial. But here’s what I’m not about to do: I’m not about to give up my job as Mother-in-Chief and neither should you, even when you don’t feel exactly up to the task. Read More
For International Women’s Day, I’ve been mulling over the life of Deborah, a prophetess who led the nation of Israel during its “Wild West” period known as the time of the judges. Like another notable prophetess, Miriam (see Exodus 15:20), Deborah was gifted in Spirit-inspired song. In fact, all of Judges 5 is a truth-telling, prophetic anthem attributed to her. However, she was also that lightening-in-a-bottle combination of spokesperson for God and capable, charismatic leader, dispensing wisdom as she decided her people’s civil cases, giving God’s marching orders to the military leader, and rallying the people to fight back against their enemies (Judges 4-5). Here’s what she says about that holy calling:
“In the days of Shamgar son of Anath, in the days of Jael, the highways were abandoned; travelers took to winding paths [because of attacks and oppression from the Canaanites]. Villagers in Israel would not fight; they held back until I, Deborah, arose, until I arose, a mother in Israel.” From the Song of Deborah, Judges 5:6-7
I don’t know if Deborah had children of her own—we do know she had a husband named Lappidoth but no mention is made of children—but whether she had raised a family or not, she stepped into the role of “motherly protector in Israel,” as the New English Translation renders that last phrase.
Let that sink in.
When everyone around her was shrinking back, hiding in fear during a time of turmoil and oppression, Deborah arose as a picture of GOD’S strength, wisdom, and advocacy on behalf of others. Her womanhood shone forth in its fiercest form, not only as nurturer but as courageous protector. Read More
Happy Book Launch Day to Dr. Angie Ward, who gave us warm, wise advice last week on how to embrace God’s calling in our lives. No surprise, I’m recommending I Am a Leader: When Women Discover the Joy of Their Calling to everybody–Go Get This Book! But until you can head to the store or get your copy Prime-delivered, here are Angie’s answers to more of your questions on how to hear God clearly and how to keep pursuing your calling in tough times. Read More